Reclaiming Who You Are When Everything Has Fallen Apart

There are moments in life that change everything—divorce, job loss, betrayal, burnout, grief. The ground beneath you splits open, the life you carefully built crumbles, and you're left standing in the dust, wondering: Who am I now?

This is the collapse. The Tower moment. And despite how it feels, it is not the end. It’s the beginning of your return to self. It's the moment for you to start reclaiming who you are when everything has fallen apart.

The Tower Card Meaning: Reclaiming Your Life and Power

The Tower tarot card symbolises sudden change, upheaval, and the breaking down of false foundations. While it may seem chaotic, this card is actually a powerful catalyst for transformation. It represents the moment you stop living for others and start reclaiming your life — no more illusions, no more pretending.

When the Tower shows up, it’s your spiritual wake-up call to break free from toxic patterns, outdated beliefs, and relationships that dim your light. This isn’t destruction for destruction’s sake — it’s a divine reset. It's the collapse that clears space for real freedom, personal power, and authentic alignment.

The Myth of Going Back to Normal

After a major life disruption, the temptation to fix everything, to patch the cracks and return to how things were, is overwhelming. But you can’t go back. Not because you’re broken—but because you’re evolving.

“Normal” wasn’t your truth. It was your survival.

This isn’t about pretending nothing happened. It’s about choosing to alchemise the experience—to reclaim what’s true, shed what never was, and rebuild in full alignment with who you’re becoming.

Identity is Not Found but Remembered

Collapse forces you to strip away everything that was built on pleasing others, following rules, or shrinking to stay safe. In the silence that follows the fall, you start to hear your real voice again.

Reclaiming your identity isn’t about inventing a new version of yourself.It’s about coming home to the you that was buried under expectations.

It’s slow, sacred work:

• Saying no to what drains you.

• Not chasing closure from those who broke you.

• Choosing rituals that nourish instead of numb.

• Letting yourself be witnessed—messy, magnificent, and in motion.

What You Lost is Not Who You Are

Sometimes, what hurts the most is losing what once defined you: the relationship, the title, the lifestyle, the dream. But you are not what you’ve lost.

You are who you are when everything else falls away.

You are the one who survived. You are the one who gets to decide what’s next.

And from this space—raw, tender, and real—you can begin again.

Not to rebuild the same structure, but to rise rooted in what’s finally real.

Reclaiming Who You Are When Everything Has Fallen Apart

Imagine having to build your life, success and fortune off of emulating someone else. You could never just be you. Your success would be inauthentic and overshadowed by the reality of that other person, so it really only serves you to reclaim your self, your power, your authenticity because no one can cultivate your power but you.

When things fall apart, it's because the universe has had enough of you trying to fit yourself into something that was never yours. It's a not-so-subtle shift into creating the life you truly want - and deserve.

It's time to step into your power.